Want to Commit Suicide? Read this First

If you are feeling suicidal and are considering ending your life, I am glad that you are reading this page. If you are thinking about committing suicide, I assume that you are in pain, deeply troubled, in depression, heart -broken, feeling cheated, and in deepest despair. I will not stop you from doing what you want to do— I am not your spouse, parent, friend, relative, doctor, or your therapist. But is there any harm in sparing some time and reading this page?

The fact that you are still alive at this minute reading this means you are a little bit unsure about your decision to die. It means that even while you are thinking about dying, some part of you still wants to live on. That’s good news for us and the others. So hang on and read on….. you have nothing to lose. Finish reading, think about it for a few minutes, and then make your decision. In any case, your life is yours—so it is up to you to decide whether you want to live or die.

Intense PAIN! Intense mental, not physical pain, that is what you are feeling right now. This pain is probably caused because of one or more problem(s) in your life—rejection, death,  cheating, abuse, panic, failure (at work, studies, love, etc.), loss of money/work, disciplinary issues, social/school problems, not allowed to do what you want, no freedom, no family support, etc. Faced with an unbearable situation, unsolvable difficulties, overpowering feelings of failures/conflicts, feeling of being unloved and unwanted, you may start to think that life has not done justice to you.

You slowly start feeling that death is your only option. It comes from the feeling that your pain is so severe that there is nothing that you or anybody can do to help you overcome it. That is exactly what pushed you into contemplating suicide. Am I right?

Remember a few things:

  1. Is the person worth your life? It is understandable to be angry with the person who has hurt you. You are probably thinking of suicide as a way of getting back at the person and making the person feel the pain you are undergoing and make the person feel guilty by your loss of life.

But at this state of mind, what you don’t understand is that committing suicide turns that anger on yourself (as you are thinking of destroying yourself) and the people very close to you. The person who has hurt you will NOT be affected at all. If that person had any remote feeling of guilt, he/she would have felt it after hurting you and after seeing you in so much pain. He/she would have already asked for forgiveness.  Why take away your life for someone who does not respect you, love you or value you?

2.  Your life is important: You should know, you are unique and special. There are people who love you and care about you. There are people who emotionally depend on you. Don’t end your life for someone who does not respect you, love you, care for you, or want you. You now that you deserve  better.

    • Why do you give all the importance to that one person who is not even worthy of your attention.
    • Why make that person the centre of your life, especially when the person does not reciprocate your feeling? There is someone out there who will love you and respect you more.
    • Why take away your life for that person? After your death, he/she will continue his/her life as though this episode never happened.

Learn to accept misfortunes as challenges. That’s when you are able to recover fast.

3.  Why punish yourself and people who love you?  Why do you have to hurt yourself and the others (parents, siblings, friends, children, etc.) who love you very much?

    • In all your anger towards the person who hurt you, have you thought of your new and dear ones?
    • Have you spared a moment to think of the trauma they all have to go through when they find you dead.
    • Have you thought how negatively you will affect the lives of so many people who really love you?
    • Do you know that it hurts them to see you in pain and in distress, but it will hurt them even more to see you dead?

Damn it, I am a stranger and I care for your life. So, your parents, siblings, children, friends and/or relatives surely care for you even more. Don’t be so inconsiderate. When in depression and pain, the tendency is to try to reach out to the person who you love, but who does not reciprocate your feeling. This will not help. It will only worsen the situation. Instead try talking to your near and dear ones—the people who love you in return.

4.   Don’t make a decision in depression: Everybody knows that a depressed person does not have the same thoughts as a healthy person. The chemical imbalance does not allow you to understand the options available to help you relieve your suffering. When you are under depression, you lose the ability to imagine a normal and a happy future. You decide that you are going to spend an unhappy life in the future. So, you don’t feel the need to seek external help. When pain becomes unbearable, you feel that suicide is the only way to end the pain.

Wrong.  Since you are depressed and are not thinking normally, your decision is but an irrational choice. Depression is a treatable illness that can be managed—depending on the type of depression, the severity, and the age of the person being treated.  

“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.”
—Khalil Gibran

In corporate work life, we often tell the juniors not to send out an email in a fit of anger or when upset about a situation. This is because when a person is angry or emotionally challenged he/she will not be able to think logically. The same applies here as well. Don’t make a decision when in depression, especially about your life.

5.  Feel the relief: You are thinking about suicide because you are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling and you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you are seeking so desperately, if you are dead.

I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.” —Agatha Christie

I know it is easy to say this, but, be strong enough to walk away from someone or the situation that has hurt you. Be with your loved ones, overcome the grief, catch hold of your life once again and then walk past the person as though he/she never existed. Trust me you will feel so relieved and more than that so proud of yourself for having come out of the most difficult situation as a much more stronger person.

 I hope you see this before you kill yourself. And I hope you change your mind after you read this!