Emotional Abuse 8: What to Do?

When you realize that you are the target of emotional abuse, the priority is to get your self-esteem and confidence back. back on track is a priority. Often, we allow people into our lives who treat us as we expect to be treated. If we are willing to tolerate negative treatment from others, it is quite possible we treat ourselves the same way.

  • Remember, no one ever deserves to be abused, specially not you.
  • Realize that it is a serious problem. It can be as bad or worse than physical abuse.
  • It can eventually lead to physical abuse too—it is not possbile to handle both problems.
  • Consider the issue of safety—your own and that of your children. Such people are usually mentally unstable.
  • You are not to blame for your partner’s abusive behavior. That’s his or her problem. You are perfectly normal.
  • Don’t feel trapped in the relationship.
  • Learn to love and care for yourself.
  • Remove thoughts such as I am no good or I never do anything right.
  • Increas your self-esteem and be confident.
  • Take the help of your near and dear ones. Find people to talk to, who can understand and support you.
  • Consider going for counseling. If possible, convince your spouse to go as well.
  • Trust yourself and your own perceptions. Believe in your strengths.
  • Remember that you are not alone and help is available.

Handling Emotionally Abusive Relationship

In minor cases of emotional abuse, two other options may be available.

  • Resisting: Standing up against the emotional abuse and no longer being a willing to be a part of to it may eventually lead to a change. Remember, for the abuser, the ultimate victory is when they have control of your happiness, can create sadness, and upset in you at any time with ease. They get a high when are able to control your emotions like a yo-yo on a string.

So, all you have to do is be emotionally strong in front of that sick person. Show that their actions don’t affect you at all, don’t break down, weep, or ask them to change/keep quite. That is exactly the reaction they what to see. Don’t give them that happiness. Learn to resist. But unfortunately, in 80% cases, by the time the abuser realises that he/she into an emotional abuse, it is just too late.

  • Counselling: Couple counselling and/or individual counselling, may address the destructive emotionally abusive dynamics in the marriage/relationship. Unfortunately, counselling will help only if the abuser realises that there is a problem.

Unfortunately, most abusers don’t think there is a problem with them. According to them the problem is with the others. This is a mental disease which does not seem to have any solution. Hence, the most obvious and simple way of handling an emotionally abusive relationship is by coming out of it. In simple words it means leaving the marriage/relationship. Depending on how far the emotional abuse has gone, this may be the only option.

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