Narcissist Behaviour

Narcissism is a term used to describe a central concept of personality trait which is a mental illness and/or a social or cultural problem. It means egoism, vanity, conceit, or selfishness. In psychology, the term narcissism is used to describe both normal self-love and unhealthy self-absorption due to a disturbance in the sense of self. It is used to denote an indifference or happiness to the plight of others, making them a saddist.

The word narcissism comes from the Greek myth of Narcissus. Narcissus was a handsome Greek youth who rejected the desperate advances of the nymph Echo. As punishment, he was doomed to fall in love with his own reflection in a pool of water. Unable to consummate his love, Narcissus lay gazing enraptured into the pool, hour after hour, and finally changed into a flower that bears his name, the narcissus.

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder in which the individual is described as being excessively preoccupied with issues of personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity.

Symptoms of NPD:

Narcissists typically display most, sometimes all of the following traits:

    • Reacting to positive criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation
    • Lack of interest in interpersonal relationships.
    • Liking people who admire and praise them.
    • Detesting those who do not admire or praise them.
    • Requiring constant attention and positivereinforcement from others.
    • Pretending to be more important than they really are.
    • Being obsessed with self.
    • Pursuing selfish goals—crushing all fundamental values.
    • Using other people without considering the cost of doing so.
    • Boosting their ego by degrading somebody else when they feel deflated.
    • Inability to view the world from the perspective of other people.
    • Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others.
    • Exaggerating their own importance, achievements, and talents in front of others.
    • Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance.
    • Hypersensitivity to any suggestions and/or criticism.
    • Taking in criticism as insults.
    • Vulnerability to shame rather than guilt.
    • Denial of remorse and gratitude.
    • Trouble keeping healthy relationships, specially with parents, spouse, and/or children.
    • Setting unrealistic goals and expecting others to follow them.
    • Becoming easily hurt and rejected.
    • Wanting the best of everything without working for it.
    • Appearing unemotional.


The actual cause of this common disorder is unknown, however, various researchers identified the following factors as possibilities:

    • Excessive admiration during childhood that was not balanced with realistic feedback.
    • Excessive praise or criticism for good or bad behaviors (respectively) during childhood
    • Overindulgence by parents, family members, and/or peers
    • Being praised for exceptional looks or abilities
    • Severe emotional abuse during childhood
    • Not enough attention by one or more parent(s)
    • I don’t care attitude by one or more parent(s).
    • Unpredictable or unreliable behavior from parents.
    • Treated by parents as trophy, not as a child.

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